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At a glance
Title The Authentic Lover
Second title Reclaiming love’s beauty and power
Author Chris Hakim
Publisher Wise Love Books
Page count 204
Format 5.5″ × 8.5″ (140 mm × 216 mm)
ISBN (trade paperback) 978-0-9981553-0-2
ISBN (e-book) 978-0-9981553-1-9
Price (trade paperback) $14.95 (US)
Price (e-book) $6.99 (US)
Distributor Ingram
Publication date April 1, 2017
Book website wiselyinlove.com/books/the-authentic-lover-reclaiming-loves-beauty-and-power
Contact editor at wiselyinlove dot com
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Press release
Relationship Book Debunks Mars-Venus Divide, Links Evolutionary Psychology to Spirituality
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About the author

A longtime student of Love and of Buddhism, Chris Hakim has lived in seven countries on three continents and stopped at Mountain View, California for longer than usual. He is a self-taught electronics engineer and holds the degree of Doctor of Traditional Chinese Medicine. He is also the coauthor of Essentials of Tibetan Traditional Medicine.

Long synopsis

Why is there so much conflict around sexuality? How does a relationship that began with joy end up feeling like a chore? Why is attraction so seldom reciprocated? And what, if anything, does online dating have to do with love? In The Authentic Lover, you will discover the four great enemies of love: violence, pettiness, vanity, and our reproductive agenda.
If we can overcome these formidable enemies, nothing more keeps us from the vast experience of unconditional love. Starting from the raw data of evolutionary psychology and other modern research, this book takes us on a journey through traditional wisdom, Rumi’s poetry, samurai culture, and the dry humor that comes from firsthand experience. A picture emerges both of the pitfalls we all face as humans, and of the corresponding opportunities we always have at hand, but rarely tap into. The Authentic Lover shows a path for us to realize our birthright to love in a full and spontaneous way, free of unwanted ancestral, cultural, and emotional baggage.

Short synopsis

The Authentic Lover introduces us to the four great enemies of love: violence, pettiness, vanity, and our reproductive agenda. If we can overcome these formidable enemies, nothing more keeps us from the vast experience of unconditional love.

Reviews

“This genuinely helpful relationship book reads smoothly and quickly, propelled by often graceful prose… Powerful, persuasive encouragement toward better and wiser loving.”

Kirkus

“Readers will gain a deeper understanding of their own divinity, the sacredness of their interpersonal connections, and the depth of the human soul as they begin to catch a vision of how to transcend the ordinary—the violence, pettiness, vanity, and agendas that limit us—to reach toward the ineffable and glorious. This is a truly wise and beautiful book, a gentle, mindful, essential read for anyone seeking closer, deeper, more meaningful relationships.”

Manhattan Book Review

“This thought-provoking and beautifully presented text is a treasure–house of lore on how to best build a deep and enduring relationship with a loved one. The Authentic Lover: Reclaiming Love’s Beauty and Power is most highly recommended.”

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