You were so brave to share your pain online, very publicly, where others might just suffer quietly.
Child abuse, sexual assault and rape, you said.
You want to make the world better. We can try to fix society, even as others race to break it as fast as they can. This may at times feel like emptying the ocean with a spoon. It may be a long time until we see the investment pay off, if at all.
You may never know what results come of your actions, but if you do nothing, there will be no results. — Mahatma Gandhi
We cannot just exhaust ourselves trying to fix things. Just for one day, let me offer you joy without agenda or trying to accomplish anything.
A day of love
Let us spend a day together and do whatever brings you pleasure and happiness. For you I will be whatever you want: a pillow to rest your head on, a blanket for cold, a wish-granting wizard, a shoulder to cry on, a box of chocolates, a healer and a panacea, a freight train loaded with luxurious goods, warm cotton candy at the amusement park, and all the tea in China. Whatever brings you joy, which for now I have no idea what it is. For this one day, I will just open my heart to you and do whatever is within my means. And if you find that helpful but not quite enough, we may even repeat that a few times.
What if all we need is a little kick now and then to reconnect with our innate joy?
For all those ailing in the world,
Until their every sickness has been healed,
May I myself become for them
The doctor, nurse, the medicine itself.
Raining down a flood of food and drink,
May I dispel the ills of thirst and famine.
And in the ages marked by scarcity and want,
May I myself appear as drink and sustenance.
The good doctor Patty Wipfler devised special time to make children happy. For a short period of time, say up to an hour, the parent will do whatever the child wants, as long as it is safe. No more parental agenda of any sort, just unalloyed goodness and freedom. Why not special time for grownups? What if all we need is a little kick now and then to reconnect with our innate joy?
Giving implies to make the other person a giver also and they both share in the joy of what they have brought to life. In the act of giving something is born, and both persons involved are grateful. ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
You may ask, how could a single pleasurable day relieve so much pain? It seems so illusory. The answer is that pleasure and pain are both illusions. This is how Buddhists see the world. This temporary and illusory pleasure is just a little jolt, which is so easy to produce if one is not too miserly.
Now pain and pleasure alike have become
Ornaments which it is pleasant to wear.
— Chögyam Trungpa, Collected Works, vol. 5
* This is not a date or a forever proposal, only a gift of love and joy. There are no strings attached. If I were courting you, you might feel that you are entering a complicated system of expected stimuli and responses. In this case, there is no complication, and you can just be happy.
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